Thursday, July 19, 2012
Who Am I as a Communicator?
In evaluating my communication styles, I strategically thought about the questions and answered them genuinely. In addition, I had one person with whom I communicate the most conduct the assessments also, my husband. Upon our completion of the verbal aggressiveness scale, I evaluated the responses and was surprised to discover that I rated myself more aggressive than that of my husband. When I rated myself, the score came to be 65 (moderate) but when my husband evaluated me my score came to be 52 (low). My mother in law always says, “Seldom do we see ourselves as others see us”, in this case, I find this statement to be totally true. I view myself as a person that is not afraid to deal with conflict and can tackle trying issues head on. Although, my husband views me as one that is more gentle with others and issues. Inevitably, I find this a breath of fresh air and a complement, I am often times too rough on myself and thus now can rest assure that is am growing in the area of verbal aggression.
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Janielle,
ReplyDeleteI find that I am harder on myself as well. I think that it's because we want to do well and we want the criticism to come from us.
I do think that we are harder on ourselves than others. I was surprised by the evaluations also, with my sister and her daughter rating me higher than I evaluated myself and the young lady next door rated me higher than either one of them. I too felt a sense of being complimented.
ReplyDeleteJanielle,
ReplyDeleteI love the way you format your response for the blog this week. The picture you put up of two faces communicating says it all. My perception of the faces of two people that seem stressed and of different races engaged in conversation that seems like they are both talking at the same time.
Janille. I too was worried about how people would rate me in aggressivness. i think its one of the things I really have to work on. I was suprised that everyone else rated me in the same way I did myself, which was moderate also. You are right, we are always the hardest on ourselves, but thats ok, I'd rather be harder on me than on someone else.
ReplyDeleteJanielle,
ReplyDeleteYou were brave to have your spouse complete the assessment. We are always much tougher on us than others, although our spouses are tough on us as well (at least mine is). Thanks for sharing.