Friday, July 27, 2012
Conflict
My husband and I of course have regular moments dealing with conflict and, sense conflict is inevitable we have come up with some strategies to help us experience more moments of productive conflicts. One strategy that we use is called the “speaker-listener” technique. The “speaker-listener” technique is somewhat equitable to that of one’s experience at a drive thru restaurant. In a conversation or disagreement, one person speaks as the other is listening. When the speaker is finished, the listener must repeat what the speaker has said word for word, emulating the way fast food personnel repeats your order in the drive thru for clarification purposes. This method has been extremely beneficial in our marriage as well as our other working relationships. Another form of direct communication comes from a book that one can find the answer to anything, The Holy Bible. God documents some strategies to help deal with conflict in the most productive way. In the book of Matthew, God tells us if we have conflict with anyone we should first, go to that person to try and deal with the issue, if the first process does not work, then we are to bring that person before a crowd of 2 or 3 witnesses, and lastly if these two steps do not lead to resolution that one should bring that person before the church or council.
These two techniques are ones that I use to manage my relationships. The utilization of these techniques encompasses the 3 R’s: respect, reflection and response. Incorporating these valuable techniques has proven beneficial for my life’s relationships and communicative skills and I hope that these practices will profit others also.
Bible Gateway. (2012, July 27). Passage lookup, keyword search. Retrieved from http://www.biblegateway.com/
The Third Side. (n.d.). The third side. Retrieved from http://www.thirdside.org/
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Thank you Janille for bringing up the way that Jesus tells us how to relate. I had thought about this and saw that the three r's follows Jesus' example. Thank you
ReplyDeleteJanille, I like your drive thru technique. I will try that with my husband nest time I want him to really listen to what I am saying. Great advice thanks
ReplyDeleteJanielle,
ReplyDeleteI go to that quote when I am having to deal with people as well. God really gives us a great sense of how to deal with conflict and how we should handle ourselves. I think that he wants us to realize that we must do things in a correct way if we expect others to act like that towards us.
Janielle,
ReplyDeleteI am so glad I read your blog this week! You have encourage me so much with how you resolve conflict thank you for sharing your strategies. I love both of what you you talked about especially the "speaker listener." And I totally believe in the teaching of the Bible.
Janille,
ReplyDeleteIt is great that you and your husband have worked out a system to deal with your conflicts I think all married couples should have a plan in place. I also like that you cited the Bible as a reference. I utilize mine every day of my life especially at work and I try to follow the teachings of Jesus in everything that I do. Thanks for sharing.